Wednesday, March 21, 2007


We got a phone call to say a friend had committed suicide. He had been having problems with his wife, and as far as we knew, though they were living apart, they were working on it.

We saw him Sunday afternoon, first time I'd seen him for a couple of months, and I was so impressed at how good he was looking, he had cleaned himself up, lost a lot of weight, had given up smoking and drinking, in an attempt to settle things with his wife. The scary thing is, we may have been the last to see him. The worse bit is, now I think back, he didn't seem himself, I just put it down to stress with his wife, but he just wasn't his jovial self.

I went to bed last night, and flicked through a little book (that my youngest had 'flogged' from Grandmas garage sale last weekend). It's called First Aid for a Woman's Soul. It has little verses of wisdom in it. The second verse hit me.

Looking forward beats looking back. Any time. (Frances Weaver)

While I don't profess to know what goes through the mind of someone considering suicide, I thought this verse was something worth keeping in mind, always. It is so relevant. It is so true. Looking back only brings back regrets and bad memories.

Life is precious, please let your loved ones know that you care.


Christi said...

Wow, Angela, sorry for your loss. I have been reading a lot about people committing suicide lately. I just can't believe that life would ever be this bad but obviously some feel it is and can't see the light at the end of the tunnel. I don't feel that nothing in your life can ever be so bad that you would end your life. But then I haven't been there. I do like your little wisdom quote. I totally agree with it too!

scrapgeek said...

So sorry for your loss. Suicide is so devastating - my thoughts are with his family and friends.

janine said...

Sorry to read about your friend. Your right you just never know whats going on in someones head. You can only look forward and not wonder what if. Your verse is so right. Make sure you look after you for a few days.

Hannah said...

I'm very sorry to hear about your friend, Angela. So very sad :-(

karen said...

oh dear. what a loss. sorry to hear about your friend. take care.

Tracy said...

Sorry to hear about your friend Angela. I really like the words of wisdom quote.

Penny said...

I'm sorry. It's scary isn't it. My sister came close to it when her depression was out of control. Fortunately she's back on track now but it is horrible.

If it's any consolation, there was probably nothing you could have done to "know" he was thinking like he was. We only knew about my sister because she admitted to it when asked. And we only asked because some specific behavior came to light that she could no longer hide it.